Saturday, August 6, 2011

Caden's Heart

We know y'all are eager for updates on Caden and our little family, and we could not be more grateful for the interest and support and encouragement that everyone has been pouring out on us. It's a little hard to put my thoughts together right now, and I'm not promising this is going to make sense, but here's the latest on our little guy.

(side note: Adam is the most amazing dad ever, and I am lucky to be loving Caden alongside him)
Caden has been scheduled to have his surgery on Monday. We don't have details yet about what time, or even what exactly the procedure will be - but his surgeon said we do know he needs his heart fixed and we are going to plan on doing it on Monday. We will let you know when we know more. For now, all we know is that it will be a pretty intensive open-heart surgery that will likely last most of the day. He will by on bypass and on a ventilator and everything, which is basically terrifying and I start shaking a little just thinking about my sweet little baby boy having open heart surgery.  I'm praying hard for peace for our hearts about the whole thing because right now, I'm terrified. Flat terrified.
We have been blown away by the support and encouragement that everyone has been showing us. So many people have been asking about the best ways they can help us right now. And we could not be more grateful. But the truth is that right now, I have no idea what I need and I think Adam would say the same thing. Everything feels remarkably like a bad dream that we will wake up from at any minute. We know that people have been asking for ways to help us financially, and we are working on figuring all those details out. I will post information here and on facebook once we have it. One way that we would love for you to bless Caden is with notes of encouragement and love and prayers. We have set up an email address (cadenstanley@gmail.com) that you can send them to and we will print them out and read them to him so he knows how loved and covered he is by so many people.
 I remember one time, not too long ago, Jayci was playing outside at my parents' house, running in circles around the driveway/yard, and my dad and I watched as she just stopped watching where she was going and ran smack into the side of the car. Not grazed the corner, but ran head on into it. And that's pretty much exactly how I feel. Like one minute I feel ok (not good, mind you, but like I'm making it) and the next minute I see something or think about something that feels like running into the broad side of a car. Like when I saw the picture of Jayci proudly holding her "super incredible big sister" book. And I'm laid flat. Because this sucks.

But while I'm flat on my back, bowled over by my fears and hurt, I am looking up. And I realize that our Father is holding me. And holding Adam and Jayci. And holding our beautiful little boy.

The truth is that your prayers and notes of encouragement on here, Twitter and Facebook have truly been a balm for our ragged souls. I can't tell you how many times I have read something out loud to Adam or he has read something to me that has reduced us to tears, not only because we are overwhelmed by all this, but because we are overwhelmed by the beauty of the body of Christ and the way He is loving us well through you guys. I wish I had the emotional strength and capacity to thank you each individually, because you truly have no idea how much your words and prayers mean to us. No idea.

More than anything, we covet your prayers for our little one and for our family. We recognize that this is either going to destroy us or deepen our dependence on Christ, and we are determined that the outcome of this whole thing will be a stronger faith and a stronger family. So keep praying, keep passing along our story, and keep sharing about our amazing little boy and the amazing things the Lord is doing and is going to continue to do through him.

*Please pray especially for wisdom for the surgeons as they make decisions about how to proceed, for peace for all of us, and for the surgery to go perfectly on Monday!

26 comments:

  1. So glad to see an update on Caden. Such a beautiful post written by such a wonderful mama. Praying for that sweet boy and his sweet parents/sister/gparents/aunts/uncles/doctors/nurses/etc etc tonight. Praying for rest and peace and that you'll feel the Lord's presence in the midst of all of this.....We love ya'll!

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  2. still praying... will continue to pray... God is there as I know you know.. HE IS ALWAYS THERE... May He continue to GO BEFORE you and provide the faith in future GRACE HE knows you need..

    Philippians 4:7--“And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ.

    MAy His SHALOM cover you deeply!!

    Nicole

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  3. Found your blog via the Kings on Facebook. Our family and I will be praying for you and sweet Caden, now and on Monday. I know our Father is eagerly displaying His great love for you during this time, and upholding you with His right hand. May you be able to rest in His peace also, sweet sister! Praying. Praying.

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  4. Praying unceasingly! Thanks for the update Becca.

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  5. Oh, Becca. I pray and pray.
    I cry for you and your sweet Caden.
    And Adam and Jayci.
    Jesus, please hold this family close to your heart.
    I won't stop praying. Sending you love.

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  6. this is such a beautiful and honest post about how things are going for you right now. please know that we are praying so much ... for Caden ... for you and Adam ... for the doctors and nurses. Caden is already so loved and so blessed to have such amazing God-loving parents. God is watching over you guys. may you feel the peace and warmth of His hands in your lives.

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  7. Becca, we're praying for you. I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this.

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  8. He is so beautiful! Still praying for all of you!

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  9. You are so covered in prayers! This morning at 4:30am I laid in bed and just lifted you up to the Father. I prayed that God would lift your arms and support you like he lifted Aaron's arms during battle in Exodus.

    Praying for peace and strength and wisdom for the doctors.

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  10. He is so beautiful!!! I just want to encourage you that my friend's little boy was born three years ago with the same exact thing and I have been keeping her updated on y'all. Her little boy has been through TWO open heart surgeries and today he is a thriving, active, happy little boy. She just wanted me to let you know that. I know it is scary. I know your mama heart hurts so bad. But just imagine the love that you feel for Caden, multiply that times infinity and that is the love that our Father has for him, too (and for you, and Adam, and Jayci). So if you can ever rest easy, just rest in Him who holds the future in His hands and loves you so much.

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  11. Hi you two, wanted you to know that our prayers are added to the multitude that are already praying.

    Grace and peace

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  12. I am praying for your family and your sweet little boy. The devotional Streams In The Desert has been such a blessing to me recently and I hope it can be to you as well...

    Streams In The Desert - July 26th
    "By faith we eagerly await through the Spirit the righteousness for which we hope." -Galatians 5:5

    There are times when everything looks very dark to me - so dark that I have to wait before I have hope. Waiting with hope is very difficult, but true patience is expressed when we much even wait for hope. When we see no hint of success yet refuse to despair, when we see nothing but the darkness of night through out window yet keep the shutters open because stars may appear in the sky, and when we have an empty place in our heart yet will not allow it to be filled with anything less than God's best - that is the greatest kind of patience in the universe. It is the story of Job in the midst of the storm, Abraham on the road to Moriah, Moses in the desert of Midian, and the Son of Man in the Garden of Gethsemane. And there is no patience as strong as that which endures because we see "him who is invisible" (Heb. 11:27). It is the kind of patience that waits for hope.

    Dear Lord, You have made waiting beautiful and patience divine. You have taught us that Your will should be accepted, simply because it is Your will. You have revealed to us that a person may see nothing but sorrow in his cup yet still be willing to drink it because of a conviction that Your eyes see further than his own.

    Father, give me Your divine power - the power of Gethsemane. Give me the strength to wait for hope - to look through the window when there are no stars. Even when my joy is gone, give me the strength to stand victoriously in the darkest night and say, "To my heavenly Father, the sun still shines."

    I will have reached the point of greatest strength once I have learned to wait for hope. -George Matheson

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  13. Our whole family is praying for Caden and your whole family. May God continue to show Himself to you through this. He doesn't give us anything we can't handle with Him. So, he must know that you and your family are amazingly strong. Take comfort in the fact that He has BIG plans for Caden. May He continue to hold you gently in His arms. Praying for doctors wisdom as they seek to do what is best for him. I wish I lived near you to give you a big hug and tell you to go and sleep for a while. I pray God sends someone to do that for me. If someone is reading this comment, I know what she and Adam need...a chance to be by them selves and process this together...alone. I pray that someone comes and gives you two some quiet moments to rest in Him together. Praying for you.

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  14. Gini posted your story on FB and although I don't even know your family, my heart is breaking for you. As the new mom of a little boy, I just can't imagine. God has little Caden in his hands, and I am praying that He will offer comfort to you as well.

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  15. Praying for your sweet Caden and for you. (((hugs)))
    A bit of encouragement... A friend of mine just had a baby with a severe heart defect and had a similar open heart surgery that your Caden is about to have. She got through the surgery beautifully a week later is out of the PICU and back in her parent's arms, hoping to go home soon. These babies are strong little fighters and I know God will give Caden the strength to get through this. And He'll give you the strength too.
    Love and prayers,
    Stacey

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  16. A friend told me about your precious boy and I have been constantly checking for updates. Although I don't know you at all, you truly seem like two genuine people who are doing their best to live each and every day for the Lord and are doing an excellent job at being Jesus to a world that desperately needs him. I recently had a friend who had a horrible accident. The medical world says he shouldn't be alive, but he is. And I fully believe that God can and will do the impossible on Caden. I was listening to the song "Our God" by Chris Tomlin and thought of your family. Our God is greater. Our God is stronger. Our God is HEALER. If our God is for us than who could ever stop us? If our God is with us, then what could stand against us? The giant you are facing now has absolutely nothing on the God that we kneel before. God is holding you. He is holding Caden and he will not let go. I also want to share a video with you, which you may or may not have seen before. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=th6Njr-qkq0. It is about a little boy named Eliot and although Eliot only lived for 99 days, God was glorified. As his dad says in the video "an underdeveloped lung, a heart with a hole in it and DNA that placed faulty information into each and every cell in his body could not stop God from revealing himself through a child who never uttered a word...God found great pleasure to take a lowly thing in the eyes of the world and show truth." God will do the same with Caden. I pray that he lives a long long healthy life and I have no doubt that God can heal him completely, but no matter how long he lives or how sick he is. God will be glorified and his power will be on display for all to see in the life of Caden. I am praying for Caden constantly and I am praying for comfort and peace for you and Adam and for wisdom for the doctors as the prepare for surgery Monday!

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  17. Passed on to some nurses in the CICU to take extra special care of your sweet boy- he's in good hands :)
    Praying for you guys as well as for the people taking care of Caden, as that's where I'm normally at. Praying for wisdom for doctors, amazing care from nurses to accompany the love and support from friends and families.
    We are close to Egleston, so please please let us know if we can run errands or what not for you.
    Michael & alex Flowe
    Alexandra.Flowe@gmail.com

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  18. Becca, I don't know if you remember me, but I'm Melissa Wolfe's cousin. I know that my oldest son, Aidan, played with Jayci for a playdate over at her house a long while ago. Your blog reduced me to tears and I cannot tell you how much my heart breaks for your family. I know that we love an awesome God and I know that your baby boy is in the Hands of Jesus, the safest place on earth. We will definitely be praying for you and your family, and I'll be forwarding your blog onto our church for maximum prayers and support.

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  19. I have been a reader on your blog for months but I am one of those who never leaves comments. I am so sorry about your sweet Caden. I am praying for him and his surgery on Monday. You are a witness of faith through your blog. Cling to His promises. I pray for the Lord's peace for you.

    Thanks for sharing how we can pray.

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  20. I've been off the grid for about 3 weeks due to various and sundry things but wanted to let you know that I am praying for you all today and in the days to come!!!
    Especially praying God's peace for you and Adam!

    In HIM-
    Mindy

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  21. I was a CFD major at UGA and i've been praying for little caden and you guys all weekend! he is just precious and is already so loved. praying. praying. praying for monday.
    -ellen

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  22. With a fervent heart deaones I send up prayers to Our Father who hears our very tears and knows our every need. May God keep you under His wing of strength; may He be the surgeons' hands...

    Praying God's Blessings surrounding the sweetness of your Little Caden as only He can do.
    Barbra.

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  23. Becca, I realize we don't even know each other. For the life of me, I can't remember how I found your blog in the first place. But I'm crying for you and your sweet baby boy right now, and I will absolutely pray for him, for you, for the surgeons, for it all.

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  24. I will be praying for your precious Caden and for you and your husband.

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  25. May God's grace be with Caden tomorrow. We will be praying for him and the surgeons.

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  26. Hey there. I ran across your blog on a mutual friend's Facebook page. My husband and I had twin girls in march, and our smaller twin is still in the NICU. I just wanted you to know that I prayed for Caden this morning on my hour drive to Birmingham while praying for Evie (my daughter). I'm praying for strength and peace for you also. It sounds like we both have little miracles. What stories we will have to tell one day to brag about our ultimate Healer and Physician! We will get to the other side. - katie newton

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