Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Don't Kick Fresh Turds on a Hot Day, and Other Lessons from a Quarter Century of Life

On this day, 25 years ago, I was born. And let me just tell you, I feel old. I know, I know, 25 is YOUNG -- but it doesn't help that all the kiddos I work with all of a sudden call me "ma'am" and guess my age at somewhere around 38 years. Bramp.

Anyways, I thought I'd commemorate 25 years of life by sharing 25 things I've learned over the last quarter of a century (really? I've been alive that long? Like I said, I am GROWN.)

1-It's really the darkness that makes you appreciate the beauty of the light. Without the hard times, you wouldn't understand or appreciate the good ones.
2-To quote the wise-old QT billboard: "Life's too short to eat oatmeal." Opt for a chicken biscuit, mexican food, ice cream, diet coke, and large quantities of cheese instead.

3-Usually it turns out that the most painful things are also the most important things in shaping who we are. Be careful of the decisions you make when you're hurting.

4-Find what makes you happy, what fills you up, what makes your heart happy -- and do it every single day. Even if it's not your 9-5 job, because it's usually not.

5-Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. Take for example Adam and me. I look at the microwave and think about how easy it is to warm up my hot chocolate. Adam looks at the microwave and thinks about how it all works with scientific stuff. Snore.

6-You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. (this one’s for y'all - Ryan and Clark)

7-Your sisters? They might have annoyed you when you were little, and they might still annoy you now – but they can also be some of the best friends you’ve ever had.

8-Being a mom is HARD. Who knew? Sorry about that mom.

9-Being a mom is also so rewarding, and has taught me so much about my heavenly Father and the way He loves me. Unconditionally. Not dependent on anything I’ve done. Just like I delight in Jayci, even when she’s throwing a temper tantrum, so too my heavenly Father delights in me.

10-We’re all weird. And it’s ok. Embracing your weirdness and learning to accept yourself for who you are is one of the best things you can do.

11-Following Jesus is an adventure. If your Christian walk is boring and safe, you’re probably not following Jesus where He’s trying to lead you.

12-Everyone matters. Every single person you encounter is a daughter or son of the King. Treat them accordingly.

13-Cheese makes everything takes better. More cheese? Even better.

14-Real community and truly being authentic with those you are “doing life with” is messy, but totally worth it. Seriously, totally worth it.

15-Take the time every once in a while (the more often the better) to look back and notice how faithful God has been to guide your steps and shape your life.

16-Embrace your unique shape in the way you serve and love those around you. Like, for instance, I don’t like being the center of attention and Adam does. So I let him do the up-front stuff while I go around and give the kiddos hugs, encourage mommas etc.

17- Those people who look like they have it all together? They don’t.

18- Look for beauty in the everyday. Trust me, it’s there – you just have to open your eyes to see it.
19- Mexican food and diet coke make the world go round.

20-That last one may or may not be true.

21- Don’t worry so much about how others see you. It turns out that what they think doesn’t change a single thing about you. If they think I have it all together and my house is clean, unfortunately my house will remain a disaster.

22- Make sure to turn off your TV/computer/cell phone every once in a while and PLAY with your kids. Even if you don’t want to, it will be fun. Seriously.

23- Jesus is the ONLY person who will never let you down. As great as your significant other/child/best friend/whoever may be – they are HUMAN, which means they are broken, which means at some point they will disappoint you. And recognizing that fact will free you up to love them without expecting them to satisfy you or fill you in return.

24-Social injustice matters. I used to think it didn’t really, as long as I wasn’t doing anything to contribute to the poverty of others. But it does matter. So do something about it.

25-The ability to cook and make yummy desserts is the most important quality in a husband. OK maybe not the MOST important, but it’s up there.


  1. You are so wise, happy birthday!


  3. I absolutely love your list! I agree about mexican food! It makes my world turn too :)

  4. i love all of these, especially #6! and was #17 discovered through your friendship with me? wait, maybe people dont think i have it all together....I think I need to go re-read #21.

  5. Great lessons! Hope you had a wonderful day!

  6. Hppy, Happy Birthday!! I loved reading what you've learned over the past 25 years. And from someone who will turn 38 tomorrow - I think 38 is pretty great....although somehow it took me until my late 30's to learn much of what you have already learned. xoxo

  7. Happy Birthday to you!

    What a great post!

    I hope you have a wonderful day.

    ps...you are very young. :) I'd go back to 25 any day! I'm 36 with a toddler, and I feel OLD! haha.

  8. I loved everything about this!!!!!!! Happy Birthday, I had no idea we were the same age!!! :)

  9. Happy birthday!!!! I hope you get a lot of CHEESE to eat today! :)

  10. Love this list, Becca!! Ditto on the cheese!

  11. happy birthday!!! such an inspirational list!

  12. Lovin' this list, sister. Mexican food and diet coke- yes. Our walk with Jesus being a wild and wonderful ride- yes. Husbands cooking and baking- don't know about that one. Wish I did. Oh well. At least he can always make me laugh. And that may be just as important.

  13. what a great list!! hope you had a great birthday!!

  14. What a wonderful list. You are a wise woman early in life!

  15. Happy belated birthday, Becca! I hope you had a marvelous and Merry Christmas.

  16. Twenty-five?! Seriously!? Sigh. I'm twenty-five in my head, if that counts for anything.

    You've gained much wisdom in just a quarter of a century. And the best is still yet to come, said the ancient 40-year old crone.


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